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Babies First Christmas Looks A Lot Different in 2020

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As Christmas rapidly approaches I find myself not feeling happy or joyful about it. I’ve felt this feeling in my past. The reason? Not spending time with family. In the past it was from working in resort towns who refuse time off during the holidays, this year, it’s a virus. It is not traveling with a 4 month old for hours in a car and being responsible as to not be a possible vector for any sickness.

While yes, I have my own family now, a wonderful husband, and our beautiful baby, the holidays are meant for time with family. Christmas isn’t about the gifts we receive or give to others, it’s quality time with the people who have always been there for you, who showed you the magic of Christmas. Our baby won’t remember this holiday for a few years but these early memories are for us, for her grandparents and great grandparents. Being around others is important for babies development to. Seeing others expressions and hearing their words. Not just relying on mom and dad for security or comfort. Heck we all need human connection.

Many families this year have had babies, some haven’t introduced their babies to their families, some live with family, some have only seen family once or twice, and some see family regularly. There is no right or wrong answer here. What you feel is right is what is right for your family.

First Ski Day

We have chosen to stay home this holiday for a multitude of reasons. It’s not easy taking a baby on a road trip. Then you get there and can’t relax because you have to visit with everyone and repeat that process 3 separate times over the course of 7 days. All we did for the past months was travel. 2hrs one way for doctors appointments, 4hrs one way for her frenectomy, 3hrs one way to both in laws houses, 4hrs one way to my parents, it gets exhausting. We did it for Thanksgiving and we all felt a bit crummy with a minor sickness after so decided it’s just not in the cards right now.

I hope we can all find some joy in this holiday season. Maybe we could start some new traditions or something to make it more fun. But right now I am at a loss for positivity on the subject and that is okay to. Remember it is ok to feel however you are feeling and not to invalidate them.

Happy Holidays from my family to yours.

It Won’t Be Like This Forever

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Sometimes you just have to drop everything and tend to the baby.

Calm after the storm.

The truth is in the moment you get upset because you just want to feel normal and get whatever you are in the middle of done without having to stop in the middle of it. It’s easy in that moment to forget that this tiny person relies on you for food, for comfort, for safety and security. To change their diapers, bathe them, clothe them. Cool them down, warm them up, help them. This tiny little beings complete existence relies on you. They don’t understand that you have a pile of dishes that need cleaning, clothes that need washing, a book to read, coffee to drink, sweeping, mopping, food to eat,  you get my drift. But you know what? It won’t be like this forever. One day you’ll wake up and realize that your baby isn’t a baby anymore. They don’t need you as much. So relish in this baby phase, embrace being needed. Don’t put to much emphasis on your household needs. Meet your needs,  meet their needs, and the rest will get done when it gets done.